When it comes to trusting people, is it incorruptibility to not learn from betrayals, or is simply foolishness?
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This was originally an extensive conversation with me in the bathroom. For me, most of them either end up as amusing footnotes in Oral Bath...
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When I began the course on Art, Theory and Criticism at Jnanapravaha , I thought I knew what I was getting into. Chiefly, I thought that...
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I had no fucking idea! It's incredibly shocking to me, that despite having read, spoken, argued, participated in and discussed...
I'd argue that incorruptibility is foolishness when it comes to this issue. A pinch of cynicism never hurt anyone.
ReplyDeleteDoes it have to be one or the other?
ReplyDeleteI suppose so. If you learn from your mistakes, you become a little cautious the next time. If you somehow manage not to, you make the same mistakes and no matter what anybody else might say, you do feel a little foolish in the end. And if you realise that over time, you keep making these mistakes again and again, would you call yourself foolish for not learning, not being cautious, or would you say that you have an incorruptible soul because no matter how badly you've been hurt, you are still open to trusting people?
DeleteI suppose the trick is learning instead, how to strike that balance between caution and openness. So bloody hard.
incorruptibility suggested a void of finality to me, which is why I asked. The word itself makes me wonder what being 'corrupt' would entail--is mistrust a form of corruption? So then--does 'openness' to trusting indicate habit, a strength of desire or love you can't fight, or just 'incorruption'?
DeleteI suppose I would feel foolish but it needn't be at odds with this kind of relentless trusting (for me): I think I'd know bloody well what was going on and why I was doing it, or at least I'd try to figure out? It is hard though, for sure.
I realise now that 'incorruptibility' was not an appropriate choice because, like you said, would mistrust indicate 'corruptibility'? I think what I wanted to say was is it foolishness to not learn caution when the same person lets you down repeatedly?
ReplyDeleteYour thoughts brought some light. I suppose it is the strength of our desires. I do feel foolish and/or hurt later, but sometimes caution doesn't immediately pop up as an option. It is foolishness yeah, a kick to the ego too, and a pledge is fervently made to never put yourself through the let-down again. Somewhere down the line I suppose subconsciously you learn to hold back without feeling like you're being less of yourself to that person - perhaps it's not a question of trust, perhaps it's a question of understanding who deserves how much of yourself, without being too rigid about it.